There are a few things I love to do this time of year; make goals with my husband, begin a prayer journal, and talk to my children about the upcoming year.
Nestled only blocks away from our home is a wonderful coffee shop. It’s the town hang-out and the place the kids ride their bikes for an ice cream cone and where Paul and I read the newspaper and share a fattening cinnamon roll from time to time.
A great place to treat my little ones to some one on one time. I enjoy taking time with each of my kids and buying them a hot cocoa or a decaffeinated mocha and discussing their thoughts for the new year. It’s important our children understand that goals and dreams take hard work and lots of planning.
Why not take your toddler, tween or teen out for some time alone with you? Whether you’re reading your littlest one a book, or talking to your junior in high schooler about college choices, the new year gives a good excuse for starting off on the right foot – together!
Spending Time Together Matters To Them
I’ve known lots of parents who realize they need to spend time with their kids and decide, “I’ll spend special time with each one each week.” The heart leads the way and the body eventually fails at the task. Why? Because it’s very hard to do something individually with each of your kids each week. Life happens. Kids get sick. Family demands bully their way into your “special time”.
Plus, you risk hurting your child by making promises that you end up breaking.
My Fool Proof Plan For Making Time Together Special–and Not a Burden
- My advice is this…plan something to do with a child in a special month. For example, I have four children. So, I’d have my oldest girl pick January as our month to do something together just her and I. My second child would get the month of February to do something with me…my third child would have her time with me in March…and so on.
- Then, give your child an allowance for your time together. Let’s say, $20.00 for your special time. Get with your child and write down all the things you can do together for a few hours and for under $20.00.
Here’s what I’ve learned as a mom of grown up kids. It’s not about how many times a week you spend a day with them, it’s about the quality of time. If you spend time each week with your child but look at your cellphone the whole time, well, that’s just sad.
I guarantee your kids will be grateful to choose a few months out of the year that are just theirs and yours for some quality time. Make sure to put away your phone for optimum quality time!
What new year traditions does your family have?